Wednesday, October 26, 2011

"Are You a Girl?" [video]

In this video I recount the experience I had with the administration at the university where I graduated. I had to have my transcripts sent to Portland State University so I had to stop by student services. I have been getting alumni mail addressed to “Ms. Asher,” which is frustrating – I never thought to do a gender change within the university, and I guess they didn't get the memo when the name changed from Christina to Charles.

After the guy was done processing my transcript request form, he asked me if there was anything else he could help me with. I told him about getting mail as “Ms.” and asked if they “accidentally” had me as female in their system. He looked, turned bright red, and told me they did.

Then he asks, “you're not a girl are you?”

I found this question fairly ridiculous considering he was asking a dude with a beard if he was a girl. I think the whole “Ms.” thing threw him off so much that he didn't really think about what he was asking – I don't think the trans thing even crossed his mind.

If he has asked if I was a transguy or if I had been born female/assigned female at birth, I wouldn't have said no – but I live and navigate the world as male and am not a girl. Simple as that. It's not my problem if he didn't connect the dots!

I have gained a lot more confidence in dealing with situations in which “the trans thing” comes up – whether it be administration at my old college, flying and TSA body scans, or running into someone from my past. I am always matter-of-fact about it and up front – there is no reason not to be, and a little education and awareness go a long way.

1 comment:

  1. Your last name is Thomy, not Asher, and don't think I don't know it, Ms. Christina A. Thomy, born July 31, 1984. Your friend, Rebecca Fultz, was born August 9, 1984, so you are both Leo Lions, which would explain your extreme narcissism and need for attention. I myself am a Gemini (twin), which means that I have a way of masking my thoughts/feelings that can only be explained as a "dual personality." You see, while I come across as "sweet" and like I'd "never hurt a fly" to those who know me in real life, I can go online and be as cunning as a two-edge sword, muahahahahahahahah!!!!!!!

    "irisom," born in June of 1983 and therefore a year older than you and Rebecca (Miss Tro23y)